5 tips (+1 unexpected) to avoid monotony in bed when you are trying to get pregnant
When the pregnancy takes several months to arrive, the routine may put an end to the couple's initial spark and you may even find having sex boring. We must avoid at all costs that the couple's sexual relations become "duties."
Because there is nothing that kills the libido more than obligations.
And after some time trying to conceive, couples learn more and more about fertile days, the ovulation calendar, the positions they recommend, etc.
The usual thing is that sex ends up being scheduled, it loses spontaneity and it is logical that it becomes somewhat monotonous.
That is why in this article we are going to give you some tips to prevent this from happening to you.Â
We'll see how to maintain the spark when you are looking for pregnancy and avoid the monotony of having to have sexual relations for a few days and hours marked by the fertility calendar.
Role reversal: take advantage of the hormonal boost
As you probably already know, during the fertile week the woman is (or usually is) much more receptive and eager to have sexual relations.
Furthermore, in all couples there is one member who is more proactive in taking the sexual initiative.
You can take advantage of that moment to change roles. That the initiative does not always start from him.
Even if it is the ovulation test that indicates that “sex is time”, avoid saying it this way. Take it as a warning that you have to start playing around, taking the initiative and seducing your partner.Â
Do you remember when you were dating? Games with your eyes, insinuations in your sentences... Flirt with your partner as you did before deciding to be parents.
Do not schedule meetings… excessively
Obviously you know that there are days when the probability of pregnancy is greater and you want to take advantage of them. But that doesn't mean you have to obsess over it.
Ok, if you are ovulating now is the time. But avoid that: come on, now is the time, get naked and I'll wait for you in bed.
There is no one capable of getting “in tune” in that mechanical and programmed way.
Take advantage of that complicity that you share with your partner and play with your weapons of seduction.
Whispers, rubbing, caresses, a suggestive photo... all that you know awakens your partner's libido.
Awaken desire through seduction. Sexual relations will be much more pleasant and your body will respond much better to demands.
Experiment in the bedroom… and elsewhere
Changing the scene introduces new possibilities to stimulate sexual play.
Even if the bed is comfortable, let your imagination run wild. Surely there are places inside the house that, because they are infrequent, can be exciting or even fun.
Not to mention that it will inadvertently cause a change of positions.
If you are going to take a trip or decide to spend a weekend away from home, take advantage of that variety of places and the change in routines. Having more free and quality time will make you enjoy each other much more.
Don't miss out on opportunities to create new situations either: surprise dinners with your partner, preparing a meal with aphrodisiac foods, changing the intensity of the lights, etc.Â
The key is that the environment and the preliminaries are part of the act. Consider them an important part of sexual relations. Not as an accessory to do without in a hurry.
Feed your fantasy... the limit is your imagination
You have a ton of resources at your fingertips to unleash new ways of enjoying sexual relations.
Maybe watching a movie with adult content with your partner or even playing those scenes will turn you both on.
Are you more into magazines or photos? Do a private session in your bedroom.
Ask yourselves all kinds of questions about fetishes or if there is any type of clothing that particularly excites you.
Do you dare with sex toys? It's not just about masturbators, there are also very diverse ones. You have at your disposal everything from massage oils, lubricating gels with incredible flavors, edible body paint... to dice games with suggestive places and postures. Â
Give free rein to your fantasies. Your partner is your greatest confidant... involve them and you will see that the possibilities are almost endless.
Make yourself beg... a little
Yes, although it may seem like a bit of a risky piece of advice because the goal is to get pregnant and to do so you need to have sex no matter what.
Think about how beneficial practicing “sexual fasting” can be for both of your libido.
After a few days without having sex, but feeding the desire, you will enjoy the moment of meeting each other much more.
You like the good and the much is tiring… in the end it's about finding the balance.
Do it with you alone... this is going to be enjoyable
Indeed, the only secret to maintaining the spark and maintaining the desire to enjoy sexuality over time is to keep the desire alive.
Masturbation has many benefits that will help you with it:
The more you enjoy, the more you want. Yes, it's addictive. Enjoying your sexuality is so pleasurable that it will awaken in you the desire to have more sex.
Additionally, it helps disassociate the idea that you are having sex for the purpose of procreation. If you have fallen into a routine, you have to raise your libido.
It will help you reconnect with sexuality, understand it as a pleasurable activity and forget that it is “mandatory” or that it is a chore to achieve pregnancy.
As you have seen, There are many ways to feed passion to avoid falling into monotony if you are looking for pregnancy.. All of them try to “take the edge off” the issue.Â
The best thing is that you focus on each other, that there is no lack of communication and that you take advantage of it to increase your complicity.
Turn it into a game, stimulating and fun.
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