We are the first generation that knows more about contraception than fertility
If you think about it right now, society, and especially young people, know more about contraception than fertility.
As a society, we have made great progress in preventing sexually transmitted diseases and unwanted pregnancies. The different contraceptive methods and how they protect the individual is something known by almost everyone.
Barriers have also been broken down in terms of talking about it naturally. Parents, guardians and educators talk about it without taboos with the youngest ones. So that they have the necessary information to not put their health at risk.
However, The topic of fertility (or rather, infertility) is still a topic that is avoided in most situations. Not to make you uncomfortable or because it is an issue that causes sadness and frustration.
Attention, spoiler: If you're looking for an argument against contraception, you won't find it. At Tienda Fertilidad we believe that each person has unique circumstances and needs. And that solutions must be given to everyone, with the utmost respect for individuality.
What we are going to try to do is give relevance to something important: that it is also necessary to give visibility to issues related to infertility. Fundamentally in order to avoid frustration, embarrassment or misunderstanding.
We are going to discuss this topic in depth.
Why is there more talk about contraception than fertility?
It has always been said that prevention is better than cure. For this reason, in recent decades a great effort has been made to promote information regarding contraceptive methods.
From the first years of puberty, young people are provided with information to use condoms as protection against sexually transmitted diseases. Also as a contraceptive.
Furthermore, the majority of women of childbearing age and without a stable partner decide to take birth control pills, get IUDs, patches, vaginal rings, etc.
Increasingly, men are also turning to hormonal treatments, such as the male contraceptive pill, gels or, more definitively, a vasectomy.
So the issue of prevention is very controlled.
However, When it comes time to have children, it is still taken for granted that you just have to let nature take its course.
Isn't it necessary to know how to help the body so that it is in optimal conditions to conceive?
In fact, after years of using hormonal contraceptives, you probably need time for your body to eliminate all traces of it.
The age at which women seek their first pregnancy is increasingly delayed. And this also makes the chances of success lower.
So when pregnancy does not arrive after months of trying, frustrations, doubts, insecurities, etc. appear.
And since it is not something “normal”, it is not discussed. As if requiring help from fertility specialists was something to be ashamed of.
We talk naturally about pregnancies, but not about attempts...
How does taking contraceptives affect fertility?
We have already mentioned that taking contraceptives seems to us to be the best way to control family planning. Each person has a different biological clock, and their degree of emotional maturity also plays a role.
But we must not fall into the trap of false myths. There is no scientific evidence that hormonal contraceptives have any relationship with fertility problems.
Whether a woman finds it easier or less easy to get pregnant does not depend on whether she took contraceptives for years.
In fact, there are women who become pregnant as soon as they stop taking the pill.
Yes, they affect another series of factors such as age, genetics, diet, stress, bad habits (smoking, alcohol, drugs), and a long etcetera.
Therefore, if there is the slightest doubt that there could be difficulties in achieving a pregnancy, it is best to go to a fertility specialist with the ability to evaluate the patient both physically and mentally.
How to deal with fertility problems?
When something worries you, it is best to share it with someone. Talk it out.
The fact of not being able to talk about our problems, whatever their nature, does not benefit our health.
Fear, stress, frustration, fears, shame are feelings that affect our mood and also generate muscle tension. If our body is not well, how will it function normally?
If you need medical help, what's wrong with that? Don't we go to the doctor when we have a cold? Is not the same?
We must be able to break the taboo: infertility is no reason for shame.
Gone are the times when a man's virility or "not being a complete woman" was questioned if one did not have children.
So the best advice we can give you is: stay calm and treat it naturally.
Seek professional help and evaluate your options, which are many.
How to overcome the emotional shock when pregnancy does not arrive
We all know that despite advances in medicine, that desired pregnancy is not always achieved.
In such difficult moments is where emotional education is most missed. No one prepares us for that moment of acceptance of such a harsh reality.
If speaking openly about fertility problems is still a barrier, not achieving it despite having undergone medical treatments becomes much more difficult.
It is undoubtedly bad news. And like any other disappointment in life, assimilation requires help. In many cases of psychologists.
It is not a topic that is still talked about naturally.
Although the trend, in a hyperconnected world with information available from any mobile phone, is that these barriers are disappearing.
So it is not difficult to get information, find out about support groups and seek help online.
However, it is not the solution. You need personalized attention from the hands of a professional.
If you are going to go to a fertility center, don't forget to ask if they have psychologists to accompany you throughout the process.
It will help you during the process to channel that cocktail of feelings that you are going to go through. It will also help you not to throw in the towel halfway or to cope with that sadness if at some point the medical evidence recommends not continuing trying.
If you want to know what other factors to take into account when choosing an assisted reproduction clinic, take a look at this other article. How to choose the best assisted reproduction clinic
I also link here this article that I find very interesting in which you will find a list of books about fertility, either to understand it, to feed ourselves for fertility or to know stories of couples and women who have gone through all this before that we: 📚 The best books to learn about fertility and pregnancy
