Deciding to have a child is a very important moment in a relationship, and it is also usually a very beautiful time.
Couples imagine the future with a child, make plans and build dreams, and have romantic details with each other.
But sometimes, social pressure - or that which the members of the couple themselves impose on themselves - make getting pregnant more difficult to cope with.
Taking into account the fertile days and feeling that there is an obligation to have sexual relations precisely on these days can cause sexual desire to decline.
Not only that, but it is common for the search for pregnancy and sex in general to become an unappetizing procedure.
Fertile days, even fertile hours, agenda in hand, and highly planned appointments with the sole objective of having sex (and with the pressure of having to ejaculate).
For this reason, because we know that it can become a somewhat tedious search, we want to reveal to you some keys to fan the fire of the relationship especially in these fertile days.
These tips for keep the spark In the search for the positive, they will help you whether you have just started look for pregnancy As if you've been going for the baby for a few months now.
Sincere communication: key in the search for pregnancy
It is important that throughout the process of searching for pregnancy, whether it is achieved quickly or if it lasts a few months (or even years), communication between the members of the couple is as fluid and sincere as possible.
That means that if one day spirits are lower, it is convenient for the couple to know. In the same way, when there is a good attitude and desire to have relationships, it is worth expressing it and taking advantage of it!
Deprogram sexual relations
Yes, fertile days are important, of course. But having sex alone “because it's time", because "honey, today I am fertile, we have to try”, turns sex into something routine and not at all appealing. Even if you have just started looking, this schedule pressure can demotivate both members of the couple.
Change the location of relationships
When a romantic relationship is established, sexual relations often occur at night, in bed, and with the lights off. It's easy to pick up habits, and it doesn't have to be bad. But to avoid falling into a routine and fueling the fire, especially during this fertile week, it's fun to have sex on the couch, at the table, standing, in the shower or bathtub... Anywhere is good.
Use sex toys
This advice is related to routine in sexual relations: you have to add some sauce to avoid falling into monotony. This spark can come from where we have sex or from using toys with our partner. You can opt for massagers, vibrators or even board games with an erotic touch.
Give free rein to fantasies
In the same vein as giving a little spice to the fertile week, it can be fun to tell your fantasies and carry them out. They may include a costume, some role play or domination... Don't be afraid, there are no taboos, and remember: communication is key to deciding what you are willing to do and what not.
Appointments can also be outside of fertile days
Attention: fueling the fire of a relationship does not have to be done only when there are fertile days. It's okay to take advantage of this sexually active stage to organize dates with your partner... also outside of these fertile windows. Play, create, invent, organize romantic dinners, give each other gifts... The 30 days of the month are good for rekindling passion.
There is no fertile day: there is almost a fertile week
It is important to remember this: although ovulation tests indicate one or two fertile days, the reality is that there is some room for maneuver. Ovulation usually lasts one or two days, but to this time frame we must add between three and five days, which is how long a sperm can survive in the uterus.
Therefore, doing the math, there is practically an entire week that is fertile and during which you can do all the “attempts” you want.
It is important to keep that in mind, because it takes pressure off both members of the couple. It is evident that the more times you try, the more likely it is, but it is also true that nothing happens if one day you don't feel like it.
rest a little
It seems obvious, but sometimes, we mark sex as an obligation on the calendar during times when there is already a lot of fatigue for other reasons. Therefore, taking a break is a good idea.
For two reasons: firstly, because having sexual relations while rested is always more pleasurable; and secondly, because the quality of the semen has decreased considerably, and if there is no seminogram That says the opposite, better day yes, day no than not having sex every day.
In short: give free rein to your imagination and try to forget a little about the fertile days and hours.
Yes, you have to keep it in mind and take advantage of these days, but it can be a good opportunity to innovate and avoid falling into monotony.
Happy searching!
