5 tips (+1 unexpected) to avoid monotony in bed when trying to get pregnant
When the pregnancy takes several months to arrive, the routine may end the initial spark of the couple and until you find it boring to have sex. It is necessary to avoid at all costs that the couple's sexual relations become "duties".
Because there is nothing that kills libido more than obligations.
And after a while trying to conceive, couples are learning more and more about the fertile days, the ovulation calendar, the postures they recommend, etc.
The usual thing is that sex ends up being programmed, loses spontaneity and it is logical that it becomes somewhat monotonous.
That is why in this article we are going to give you some tips to prevent this from happening to you.
Let's see how to keep the spark when trying to get pregnant and avoid the monotony of having sex on the days and times marked by the fertility calendar.
Switching roles: take advantage of the hormonal boost
As you probably already know, during the fertile week a woman is (or usually is) much more receptive and more eager to have sex.
In addition, in all couples there is a member who is more proactive in taking the sexual initiative.
You can take advantage of that moment to change roles. That the initiative does not always start from the same.
Even if it is the ovulation test that indicates that "it's time for sex", avoid saying it this way. Take it as a warning that you have to start playing around, take the initiative and seduce your partner.
Do you remember when you were dating? Games with the eyes, insinuations in your sentences... Flirt with your partner as you did before deciding to be parents.
Not scheduling meetings… excessively
Obviously you know that there are days when the probability of pregnancy is greater and you want to take advantage of them. But that doesn't mean you have to obsess over it.
Okay, if you're ovulating it's time. But avoid that: come on, now is the time, get undressed and I'll wait for you in bed.
There is no one capable of getting "in tune" in such a mechanical and programmed way.
Take advantage of that complicity that you share with your partner and play with your weapons of seduction.
Whispers, touches, caresses, an insinuating photo... all that you know awakens your partner's libido.
Arouse desire through seduction. Sexual intercourse will be much more pleasant and your body will respond much better to the demands.
Experiment in the bedroom… and elsewhere
A change of scenery introduces new possibilities to stimulate sexual play.
Although the bed is comfortable, let your imagination run wild. Surely there are places inside the house that, because they are infrequent, can be exciting or even fun.
Not to mention that it will inadvertently cause a change in posture.
If you are going to take a trip or decide to spend a weekend away from home, take advantage of that variety of places and the change of routines. The fact of having more free and quality time will make you enjoy each other much more.
Don't miss out on opportunities to create new situations either: surprise dinners with your partner, preparing a meal with aphrodisiac foods, changing the intensity of the lights, etc.
The key is that the environment and the preliminaries are part of the act. Consider them as an important part of sexual relations. Not as an accessory to do without in a hurry.
Feed the fantasy… the limit is your imagination
You have at your fingertips a ton of resources to unleash new ways to enjoy sex.
Watching a movie with adult content with your partner or even playing those scenes may turn you both on.
Are you more of magazines or photos? Have a private session in your bedroom.
Ask each other all kinds of questions about fetishes or if there is any type of clothing that excites you in particular.
Do you dare with sex toys? It is not only about masturbators, which are also very diverse. You have at your disposal everything from massage oils, lubricant gels with incredible flavors, edible body paint... even dice games with suggestive places and postures.
Unleash your fantasies. Your partner is your greatest confidant... make them a part of it and you will see that the possibilities are almost endless.
Make yourself beg... a little
Yes, although it seems like a bit risky advice because the goal is to get pregnant and for this you need to have sex yes or yes.
Think about how beneficial it can be for the libido of both practicing "sexual fasts".
After a few days without having sex, but feeding desire, the moment you meet you will enjoy it much more.
What is good is liked and much is tiring…in the end it is about finding the balance.
Do it with you alone... this is going to be enjoyed
Indeed, the only secret to keep the spark and maintain the desire to enjoy sexuality over time is to keep desire alive.
Masturbation has many benefits that will help you with it:
The more you enjoy, the more you want. Yes, it is addictive. Enjoying your sexuality is so pleasurable that it will awaken in you the desire to have more sex.
In addition, it helps to disassociate the idea that you are having sexual relations in order to procreate. If you have fallen into a routine, you have to raise your libido.
It will help you reconnect with sexuality, understand it as a pleasurable activity and forget that it is "mandatory" or that it is about homework to get pregnant.
As you can see, there are many ways to feed the passion to avoid falling into monotony if you are looking for pregnancy. All of them try to "remove iron" from the matter.
The best thing is that you focus on each other, that communication is not lacking and that you take the opportunity to increase your complicity.
Turn it into a game, stimulating and fun.
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